It always amazes me that this is the universal process that is one of the hardest things to talk about. What I know to be true, however, is this: death and loss are the great equalizer. Every single soul on this planet will experience it. I’ve come to learn that when we are in it, in the messiest parts of “it”, we know what we need. We just want someone to lean on. Not to fix it, but to lean on. It seems to me, that often when we are on the other side of this universal process, that we forget entirely what to give to those grieving, and we struggle most with how to fix it (what to bring, what to say, what not to say). Although grief is a universal experience, it is remarkable that very few of us know “what to do” or “what to say” in times of grief, especially with children. And even worse, when grief and trauma go hand in hand, many of us feel like lost ships in a stormy sea. We will spend the day talking about the saddest parts of grief, how to help each other stay connected, and how to come out never the same, but perhaps even stronger on the other side.
We’ve done this talk in an evening or a full day. It’s powerful and can often stand alone. It incorporates some of our Day One talk on Relationships too.